This is an easy post for me to write, thanks to a recent book I read when I was going through a difficult time.
Milk & Honey by Rupi Kaur
The Canadian poet Rupi Kaur’s poetry started on Instagram before she self-published a collected volume. This book quickly became a US bestseller.
The book is divided into four chapters, and each chapter serves a different purpose; dealing with different pain; healing a different heartache. Whilst reading this I was suffering depression and going through CBT, I remember telling my therapist I had read this book, a week before reading I could not even think about picking up a book to read. I had complete lack of motivation, this was quite surprising to people who know me as I love my books and to read.
It quickly became a light bulb moment, when reading through the section about healing, never was a truer word written. I knew it deep down and I just needed to pull myself out.
The book starts by taking you through a journey of life’s bitter, harsh moments of hurting. Reading through this chapter, I realised a life I had lived but hidden away, anyone who had something bad happen to them could relate to this.
she was a rose in the hands of those who had no intention of keeping her
The second chapter is about loving, this was great to read as a reminder during this time that I am now in a loving relationship. I started to forget the great thing in my life, clouded by what was happening to me at this point. I just needed to remember the great part of my life I still had. I admit it gets a bit fruity as it talks about sexual relations.
you might not have been my first love but you were the love that made all the other loves irrelevant
The third chapter, sends you crashing down again off a high to ‘The Breaking’ anyone who had a bad relationship could relate to these dark times, for me it was a positive reading the poems. I had a dark, horrid relationship before and reading this chapter, was just a ‘yep I know that feeling’ but it is just so far behind me, it would not affect me as it did. If you have ever been in this situation you would be able to relate, however, I think if you are experiencing this now it would be a great help to realisation.
you were temptingly beautiful but stung when I got close
The final chapter was the best thing to make me feel better, to start searching to making myself better mentally. This helped my depression, there are always positives at the end of pain whether it is a relationship breaking down or something that is happening in your life, these poems help you heal. I kept reading certain ones over and over again so I was making sure I had daily reminders.
accept that you deserve more than painful love life is moving the healthiest thing for your heart is to move with it
This book is an amazing collection of poems that share trauma, loss and abuse but you can love and heal with great femininity thrown in. The lesson that I learnt from this book is that you can love and have happiness once you have healed yourself but only if you are willing to look for it. I know I certainly did before I had my depression and it was a reminder of what I had in front of me. For people who know me or have followed my journey, they know I am talking about Mr N who has completely changed my life and given me the greatest gift. I lost my way for a short time there when something happened in my life which crushed my confidence and made me question myself but all along I was the luckiest person alive because I had Mr N.